The second step
There is a great energy that comes from choosing to change your life. Usually a desire has grown overtime until it needs to be released with action. So you act on this reserve of energy and charge into the unknown with your first step! You go to the gym for your first session. You decide […]
Responding to uncertainty
Fear and curiosity are opposing responses to the same condition of uncertainty. Let’s explore this by contrasting two scenarios with similar conditions: finding a job and planning a holiday. There is a lot of uncertainty that comes with finding a job, particularly after university. You usually need to find a job by a deadline, and […]
A or B?
Sometimes when we have a problem, we try to solve it through comparison. Do I choose A or do I choose B? This can be a simple and effective approach for many problems. Though if the choice isn’t coming easy, here’s something that may help. Assess each option on its own merit. What would you […]
A marathon from your front door
Many people consider finishing a marathon as a significant and worthy accomplishment. If this is something you really want to achieve, then the start line and finish line could be the front door of your home. All you need to do is go out and traverse 42.2 km. But if it’s that simple, why do […]
What message are you delivering?
When we respond to a situation with emotion, it’s important to understand the message we are actually delivering. We may frame the discussion as wanting to work through a problem. We may say that we’re fine and that we just want to solve the issue. But really we want our feelings to be acknowledged. When […]
Go You Go!
From our time working on leadership programs together, Bec and I found that a lot of people would come to us about whether their idea would work or not. Most of the time, the idea is well thought out and our input isn’t actually required. Had they tried their idea without going through us it […]
Terms of engagement
Every engagement is governed by terms that are important to both sides. The problem is that most times these terms are unspoken and unwritten. The more explicit you can make these terms before entering an engagement, the better you both will be. It’s extremely helpful for both sides to clearly state how they expect the […]
One thing to achieve today
Life is more fun with a sense of accomplishment. It’s incredibly satisfying going to bed feeling like you’ve achieved something. But if your days feel deprived of meaning, it could be because they’re too busy or too empty. Busy days are when you have an ever-expanding to-do list, and the more tasks you cross off […]
Accepting separations
When a couple gets engaged, the announcement isn’t usually questioned. But when a couple announces their separation, it can sometimes be queried. Before a relationship ends, both parties will have spent a lot of time, energy and emotion working out why it isn’t working. They will have already asked each other a million questions about […]
Check your ego
We all have finite capacity, which intuitively means we should apply ourselves to pursuits or tasks where our personal contribution has the greatest effect. But how is this playing out in reality? How many things are you doing without questioning why? How many tasks are you reluctant to give to others because you feel your […]