Every speech changes the world
I was taught that you should only make a speech if you want to change the world. You may think this is a little extreme, but it’s a very powerful concept. It doesn’t mean that you should only make a speech if you want to inspire a movement or a revolution. It means that every […]
What’s the password?
We use passwords multiple times a day, so why not use them to send yourself important messages you need to hear? Take for instance your Facebook account. If you’re doing a digital detox, why not change your Facebook password to something like “thisisabadidea!!!” Or if you use a password to log into work every morning, […]
The Goldilocks Difficulty Curve
Hades was one of the most popular video games in 2020. The game is rich in Greek Mythology, as you play as Hades’ son and keep trying to escape the Underworld. I’m not one for action dungeon-crawlers, but the game received so much hype that I was tempted to play it, and I’m glad I […]
Give advice to yourself
People are pretty good at giving advice to others. But we’re not usually good at giving advice to ourselves. When someone comes to you for guidance, we are happy to share our perspective. That’s because we can see things more objectively, and we can freely share our opinion because we’re not the ones who have […]
Making habits and breaking habits
James Clear is the authority when it comes to the science of habits. His book Atomic Habits is a fabulous read, but if you want a condensed version you can read his blog post: How To Start New Habits That Actually Stick. The forming and breaking of habits is all about the feedback loop – […]
Reciprocate goodwill in kind
When we are recipients of goodwill from others, we can feel compelled to reciprocate. When someone generously donates their time or their experience, they have done so for their own reasons, and their value for doing so is non-monetary. As such, a heartfelt thank-you is typically all that’s needed in return. If you’d then like […]
How to stop being ghosted
We’ve all experienced it, and we’ve all done it. One minute you feel like you’ve got a great connection with someone, and then suddenly one side has disappeared. Unfortunately it seems that ghosting is becoming more common. We have so many options that it can feel hard to commit to someone (and harder still to […]
Scorched earth policy
There is a scene in The Dark Knight where Alfred says to Bruce, “Some men just want to watch the world burn”. He’s describing the Joker, and how his actions may not be driven by things that are logical. Yes it’s a Hollywood movie. Yes it’s fiction. Yes it’s an extreme character. But within that […]
You have 15 minutes
We have more 15 minute spaces in our day than we may care to admit. Sometimes 15 minutes feels like an eternity, and sometimes it feels like not enough time to get something done. I have an appointment in 15 minutes, and I find myself with this space of unallocated time. What should I do? […]
Is your story someone else’s?
When someone comes to us with a goal they want to achieve, we first want to understand the story behind their motivation. For many, this story has become a big part of their identity, and they feel that achieving this goal is an important part of who they are. But when you start unpacking that […]