Thank you for telling me
Society is based on making promises and keeping them, but sometimes we make promises we aren’t going to keep. This doesn’t mean it’s ok to keep making false promises, it’s just an awareness that it will happen. And with this awareness, you can frame the experience in a powerful way. Whenever you’re on the receiving […]
What do you actually want?
The third question of the Quarter Life Framework is, What do you actually want? You may find this strange given you had to answer the first question, What do you want? We ask this question as a follow up to the first so you can get really clear on the desired change. The first question […]
How am I supposed to do that?
During your career, you need to respond effectively to hard requests put upon you. Here’s a technique that will help. If someone approaches you with a request, respond with “How am I supposed to do that?” (in a polite and considered way of course). The question disarms the asker in a few ways. Many requests […]
School mottos
If your High School was like mine, it had a motto that was in Latin. The motto was on the front of every uniform, but no one knew what it meant. Isn’t it incredible that you were part of a community for many years that had a guiding principle which no one could explain? The […]
Fear of success
It’s common to be afraid of failure in your 20s and 30s. It’s less common to discuss the fear that comes with success, because it’s not typically acknowledged at the start of your journey. Sure, you may be open to discussing your options and deciding on a clear direction, but on some level you may […]
Sunk cost fallacy
This is an economic principle which will help you make better decisions. A sunk cost is a cost you can’t get back, and this cost can be anything – money, time, resources etc. Because we can’t get the cost back, it should not influence how we make future decisions. But the fallacy is that we […]
The ultimate guide to ice cream
I talk a lot about ice cream… so I thought I should provide a guide to the best ice cream to get when you’re next shopping… Sticks or Tubs? So let’s get down to business. You’re in the ice cream aisle and you’re there for a good time. To maximise the pleasure:guilt ratio, you’ll either […]
The quarter life crisis
During our 20s and 30s we are faced with an amazing array of opportunities, but also confronted with needing to make some big life choices. This can be quite overwhelming, and it’s such a common occurrence that it’s been labelled the Quarter Life Crisis. The “crisis” can take many forms, but generally speaking it is […]
A shared end in mind
When you’re in a partnership – be it romantic, professional, social – you are going to differ in many, many ways. You will have different tastes, opinions, talents and motivations, and these differences are what make every connection unique and beautiful. When we lose sight of this, the differences can become a source of conflict […]
The Tail End – Animated!
One of my first posts was about a famous blog post called The Tail End. The basic message is that rather than looking at life by time, view it by experiences. The Kurzgesagt channel on YouTube has just made this blog post into a video (not about my post – the original post :P) If […]