When all the little things align
I want you to think of two memorable times you went out to dinner – one really good experience and one really poor experience. Here’s an example of a poor experience:The service is slow, the kitchen is unorganised, the meals are served incorrectly, you’ve waited a long time, you begrudgingly pay the bill, you leave […]
Just do 5 minutes
We all feel resistance when approaching a task that needs to get done. The resistance is strongest before you begin, but it falls away quickly if you can push through it. So how do you begin? Just commit to working for 5 minutes. Rather than feeling like you need to complete the whole task at […]
Be kind to yourself
I believe we’re better at being kinder to others than to ourselves. If someone was talking negatively about themselves, or was disappointed because they wish they could have done more, or was stressing because things weren’t working out, we would lean in with kindness and consideration. We wouldn’t add fuel to the fire. But when […]
Defining values
Values guide our actions, which means understanding our values is really helpful when making change. It can be hard though to know where to begin, so here are some thoughts to consider. Values as a spectrum We attach varying degrees of value to every element of our life. It’s not that we HAVE or DON’T […]
Underpromise, overdeliver
Success and happiness in life basically comes down to managing expectations. And you really only have four choices. If you can overpromise and overdeliver, go for it! That’s the best of the best. But that’s really hard to sustain. The sweet spot is underpromise and overdeliver. If this is sustained you are constantly sparking magic, […]
Empower others
If you want to make a bigger impact in less time, empower others. The more you can empower others, the more you will grow. But to empower others means you have to lose some control, and that can be hard. If you’re struggling with this, try to consider what value you are actually bringing to […]
Eliminate decisions
When you commit to making a change you want to give yourself every chance of success. To do this, eliminate as many decisions as you can in advance. We’re not great at making immediate decisions because we can be highly influenced by our current environment. If you walk into a cafe and there are freshly […]
The immediate next step
Committing to a change in your life requires taking action. And the easiest way to take action is to identify an immediate next step, and then do it. You don’t need to have it all figured out before you begin. You just need to have a clear objective, such that an immediate next step can […]
Your very own Pensieve
For the wizards reading this blog, you already know how powerful the Pensieve is. It’s a magical device that allows someone to literally take memories from their mind and place them in the Pensieve to review at their leisure. For the muggles reading this blog, you probably don’t have a magical dish or wand at […]
Today was a win
The last couple of weeks have been tough. I’ve done what I’ve needed to do, but I’ve really felt on the back foot. And yet tonight I did something I didn’t expect I was capable of doing, which has put me ahead of where I thought I could be. And that caught me as a […]