Issac Asimov is credited with the expression: “The most exciting phrase to hear in science, the one that heralds new discoveries, is not “Eureka!” (I found it!) but “That’s funny …”
I feel there is a similar dynamic at play when people are trying to gain clarity about something in life.
You may be searching for a moment to be struck with a sudden revelation, such that everything makes sense and you exclaim, “That’s it!”
But in my experience, I know that a comment or thought has really hit home if I find myself making a soft “hmmm …” under my breath in response to it.
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