When you’re grappling with a problem, be careful of your true intentions when you go to others for “advice”.
Are you genuinely hoping for your thinking to be challenged, and you want their perspective to help you work through the problem?
Or have you subconsciously made up your mind and you’re searching for reasons to confirm your position?
If it’s the latter, this may mean that you already know the answer but you’re finding it hard to accept it.
Or it could mean that you think you know the real answer and have readily accepted it, but you’ve actually closed yourself off to other views and you really should be challenged.
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