How long does career coaching last?
I get asked this question a lot about career coaching: How long does career coaching last? The answer I give is: Professionals engage me for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Here’s a Reason I had a client who approached me wanting to change jobs. However, we determined it wasn’t a new job they […]
High-energy promises
My partner Bec called me out recently. I floated an idea and she paused. She then asked, “Is that a high-energy promise?” I’d never heard the term before. She explained. “Ben, you do this all the time. When you’re full of energy you throw something out there in the moment. But when the moment passes, […]
Flexibility vs Freedom
I’ve owned a business since 2019 and one thing is very clear: People think a business gives you FREEDOM. It doesn’t. It gives you FLEXIBILITY. Freedom means your investments or savings pay you a liveable wage whether you work or not. Flexibility means you still work, but more so on your terms. You can decide […]
Change your job or change yourself?
Thinking a new job will fix burnout? It won’t. You’re tired. Disconnected. Dragging yourself through each week. And you’ve started thinking it might be time for a new job. A fresh start. A different team. A better culture. It feels like the obvious solution. But here’s the thing most people don’t realise: Burnout doesn’t always […]
A thought on careers and relationships
You’ve spent your 20s & 30s building a significant career. And then you meet someone special. Are you ready for it? When you’re building a career in your 20s & 30s, your focus is singular. You’re working hard and putting yourself first (because that’s all there is). Then someone comes along. Suddenly, you’re not just […]
Turning a W into an L, fast
Want to know the quickest way to turn a win into a loss? Do something for someone else. And then when they thank you, tell them directly or subtly that it was a hassle for you.
What are you fighting for?
You may have seen this floating around the interwebs. But every time I see it, I’m grabbed by it. We are very good at fighting for our limitations. This statement is difficult to accept. Every reason we give sounds valid. Every excuse we make seems reasonable. Every objection we state feels right. And yet, the […]
The fix to overwhelm
With a 1 yo and 3 yo, I do a lot of cleaning. Like a LOT. Especially the kitchen. There’s been many a time that I’ve looked at a messy kitchen and thought, geez, how am I going to clean all this? (and often my second thought is, ahh this can wait til tomorrow). It’s […]
Appreciating election day
It’s amazing how the community comes together on election day. There’s just this buzz in the air. School committees are running sausage sizzle fundraisers. Community centres are full of life. Then there’s the collective interest throughout the day of who’s ahead and what could happen. No matter who you voted for, there’s something to appreciate […]
What do you keep putting last?
I’m a list guy, and I like keeping track of things I need to do. But there’s a dark side to being a list guy. Sometimes I feel I’m keeping a list of the things I DON’T do. The list captures all the things I want to do. But there are items on my list […]